For me, being single is an opportunity, an opportunity to grow spiritually, get to know myself and enjoy the little things. I got used to the label “single” or rather I adapted to this state. I don’t mind being single, because after several experiences I found that it is much better than being in a relationship just for the sake of it. I don’t mind being single, because I don’t have to constantly think and worry about the other person. I clean when I want, cook when I want, put things away when I want, no one tells me about anything, I don’t have to adapt to anyone, just myself and focus on myself.
Many couples stay in dysfunctional relationships out of habit, financial reasons, or other reasons. One must definitely know when to leave such a relationship and whether it is better to be unhappy or to dare to exist as an independent unit and be happy. I lived in such a relationship and I was not happy, but I told myself that I was and that miracles do happen … they do happen, but not always and not in circumstances that we would like to change at that moment.
One adapts to the status of being single, yes. But just recently I realized the disadvantages of being single. When? When I had temperatures of forty degrees for a week, I was as weak as tea, I couldn’t control anything and it was difficult for me to even make tea, I was completely exhausted and then I thought how nice it would be if someone made me tea, soup, served a book and I could lie down and beat the temperatures, which were already unbearable. In the end, I ended up in the hospital with bilateral pneumonia. I got over this plague and I’m making tea myself again.
Yes, it’s hard to be alone when you’re dealing with an illness, you’re losing strength, and there’s no one around to help you. When at any time it can happen that you can fall at home or something like that and you can’t help yourself. Well, I’m used to being alone anyway, because sometimes you can live with someone, but you can feel lonely like you’re not even in a relationship. In order to find the person who is right for you, you have to get to the right place. That doesn’t happen when you’ve received less than you deserve and you’re with the wrong person.